I’m Just a Stress Mess: Learning to Cope With Transitions

One night a woman had a dream. She dreamt that all of the stress in her life had melted away like ice cream, and it was just dripping off her hand into a puddle on the floor. She dreamt that she had nothing to worry about, and even if she did she was strong enough to handle it. She dreamt that she looked at life with a relaxed, yet determined attitude. She wasn’t anxious because she was living in ‘the now’, and all the problems she worried about were only in her head. She just went the flow, because that’s what she knew. She didn’t try to constantly fix things or speculate about situations that were far in the future. She just let them be. She was being the best person she could be, in the present. She was fully engaged with everyone in the moment.

Ugh, okay so I may or may not be thinking about changes and the upcoming stress that I’m going to face in the next couple of weeks. In a week I am flying back to school, moving into a new apartment, and starting my student placement (it’s like co—op or an intern but for no pay. I do, however get credits towards my degree). Anyways, having just typed that out all the things I have to do seem fairly small. Fly back. Move into a new apartment. Start School. You’re probably thinking, “Come on Sita Gaia, why are you stressing?? Everyone goes through the same changes!” And case in point, this is true. I don’t have the right to sit on a little pedestal and whine about how stressed I am. But in all honesty, it feels very cathartic to get everything off my chest.

For as long as I can remember, I have been terrible with ‘transitions’. So whether its the end of summer transitioning into school, or travelling from one province to another, I always take a couple of days to adjust. It’s like I’m PMSing all the time. I feel edgy, tired and grumpy. My eyes feel sore and I get headaches and I stay up all night, staring into blackness, just wishing I could sleep. I have learned that drinking coffee is the worst thing I could do if I’m feeling in one of these moods. It just seems to exacerbate every situation it and I feel so grumpy about stuff that’s easily solvable. My poor family. At least I have shut myself in my room for the majority of the day so they don’t have to deal with me. (Well, they are also busy doing their own thing, so that makes minimum contact a lot easier).

I felt the exact same way at this time about four years ago. I was going to be moving out and starting university. Before I left I was driving with my family to Calgary to celebrate my Cousin passing her Bar Exam. (A Bar Exam is a test that lawyers have to take to officially certify themselves as a lawyer). It was funny, she was just starting her career and I was just starting my university education. The age gap has always made it so we were always embarking on crucial parts of our lives at very different times. Now that I am in university she is married. I don’t think I will catch up, I mean time is time.

Anywhoo that was completely besides the point. I was so stressed about this party because I knew that relatives would ask me about going to university and I would have to bring it up again and again. I was already stressed enough as it was. Why would I want to keep reminding myself of that impending change that was going to be exciting and simultaneously very stressful. Now don’t get me wrong, I couldn’t wait to move into residence and start classes, but jumping into the next chapter of my life kinda freaked me out. There were so many unknowns, and I had fears that I wouldn’t make any friends. What if no one liked me? What if I ended up all alone? These questions haunted my mind all summer, and even though I was excited about moving away, I couldn’t scare away those fears that I had. Thankfully, everything worked out, and all my stressing was for nothing. I settled in my residences, made friends, and although I struggled through courses as most students do, I didn’t fail or flunk out. And I was most certainly not alone.

However, it’s really important to keep in mind that with this much stress I need to be really cautious about seizures, because too much stress can easily trigger one. This doesn’t mean locking myself in my room for a week (okay I only stayed in my room today because I felt like sh*t), but just taking things one day at a time. I am a bit nervous about the seizures coming back again because I just really really want to continue on being able to do the things that I want to do. Also, I really want this fall semester to go smoothly because I have a lot to look forward to. But, when I look at the picture from a realistic point of view, things have been going well. The few seizures that I have been having have mostly been while I was in bed. I’ve been having them while I was asleep or on the verge of falling asleep. People always ask me how I know that I’ve had a seizure in my sleep, but it’s easy to tell because the jerky movements always wake me up. Thankfully I’ve mostly been experiencing seizures in just my feet, which is a step up from having involuntary movements in my legs and arms. I just need to keep my chin up and be strong. I know I will be stressed out, and I just need to give myself the space to relax and do what’s best for me. I don’t need to be worried about spending time alone or just being at home, if that’s what I need. Additionally, I need to remember that even though I’m going through another transition, I have already made the major changes. I also need to remember that life isn’t just stressful-it’s often wonderfully exciting! I have so many great plans for this coming fall, so I just need to keep my eyes on the prize. After all, it’s all in my head.

Thanks so much for reading! Love you all! xox

4 thoughts on “I’m Just a Stress Mess: Learning to Cope With Transitions

  1. I completely get what you mean by transitions! My recent one felt so much bigger than it was. Flying back from Alberta…ugh I totally get what you go through even though for me it was just a week. I felt like such a different person…I was carefree!! Ottawa sucks lol.

    I have much faith that your fall will be great though. 🙂 and those days where its not remember the people who love you

    1. Aww yeah everyone has been there, which makes it more comforting! Thank you, I think my fall will be great too! I just gotta get through this hurdle and I`ll feel much better! ❤

  2. You’re doing just great Sita! With faith, God gives us the strenght needed to face our challenges! Blessings! Nicole

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