Finding Mentors Through My Friends

15338761_10154262379411925_743627914102019830_nI am continuing on with the “Mentors in My Community” theme. This week I am looking at mentors in my personal friendships. This was a particularly hard one, as it was hard to choose just *ONE* friend who is a mentor, as ALL of my friends are mentors in one way or another.

I met so many new friends this year, who have had such a positive impact on my life.  I met my good friend Kathy at a Femme Friday meet up, which used to occur at this cute little Cafe- for all female and femme LGBTQ identified women. It was one of the more casual evenings, and one of the organizers was reading her tarot cards as that is something that she is skilled in. I brought some of my mum’s tarot cards- not because I can read them effectively-but because I thought they were fun. I ended up reading a tarot reading for everyone at my side of the table, which included Kathy.

Kathy instantly reminded me of one of my friends from Ottawa: charismatic, friendly, and had a presence. Oh boy, she has a presence. We soon realized that we both had a love for tea, so after that evening we arranged to go her favourite tea house where we drank cup of tea, after cup,  after cup.

It also became evident  that Kathy was greatly involved with the LGBTQ community here in Vancouver, as I would bump into her at Pride, as well as the Vigil for Orlando. (RIP). Kathy helped me understand my orientation, and even though there are still tons of question marks, she gives me advice when I want to talk to a lady that I fancy for the first time. It helps that she knows practically everyone, so she has a connection to mostly everyone I want to talk to.  She understands her orientation better than I understand mine, and although I am not upset about my orientation, I get very confused at times. Kathy will listen patiently, and even console me when I feel like no one will ever want to be with me. “Girl, you have girls falling all over you! What are you talking about?!” She’ll say to me. Her comments assuage my insecurities.

Today we are organizers for a Lesbian meet up here in Vancouver, for women in their 20’s, 30’s and youthful 40’s. Kathy feels like one of the older sisters that I never had, and I know that she will protect me if something bad ever happens to me.

I am so grateful for Kathy’s loyalty, protective nature, and honest friendship. It means so much to me!

Who is your Mentor out of your friends??

Lots of love,
Sita and JoJo xox


Finding Mentors Through My Community

Hey friends! Can you believe that it is Christmas time again?? I can’t! This year has just flown by.

I have been thinking about community a lot lately and how I have found various mentors. I have grown my community in multiple directions- Yoga, Public Speakers, Life Coaches, Entrepreneurs, and not to forget my friends and family. I don’t think that everyone realizes it, but they contribute something powerful and meaningful to my everyday way of life.

When I was first recruited for TEDxStanleyPark, in December of 2015, I was elated. I was soon to be one of the people standing on the stage, sharing knowledge and wisdom like the people in so many TEDxTalks that I looked up to. I was recruited late in the game, so when I went to the very first rehearsal in January 2016, I was nervous but oh so thrilled to be there. I needed to soak in every bit of information that I could, having never done anything like Toastmasters, and only a bit of public speaking prior. After the first rehearsal, I soon became engaged with one of the speaker’s talks. She was charismatic, witty, and had a powerful personality. She knew how to deliver a good talk.

I already had a coach, but as a novice speaker, I needed all the help I could get. I knew she wouldn’t give me any BS, and would tell me like it is. Sure enough, that’s what happened, and I honed in my public speaking skills.  In addition, I took her entrepreneur course, which taught me how to lay the ground work for starting my own business. I worked hard at entrepreneurship, and even though found it wasn’t my calling in life I found some very translatable skills that I can carry with me for the rest of my life. She has also given me the courage to keep moving forward- especially when things get tough.

I am so lucky to have Isabelle as one of my mentors. Her support means everything to me, and helps me to live life at full volume, despite my epilepsy.