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4 Reasons Why Self Care is Hard

Hey bb’s!
I am sure you have heard about self-care, (especially if you have a form of chronic illness), and have been told to practice self-care. In my Social Work degree, the idea of self-care was beaten into us. But what is it? It is the way of taking care of yourself when you need down time or are feeling symptoms due to your illness. (ie Seizures, exhaustion, flare up, hard to walk, etc.)
self care.jpg1.You Feel Selfish
Taking time for yourself to recharge or just tell your partner or friends that you cannot do much one day feels crappy. It feels weird sometimes to say “Hey I can’t come out and meet you because I had a really bad sleep and pushing myself would be too much.” I am lucky that my fiancee is super supportive and understands that some days I can’t do too much.

2.You Miss out On Social Events
Sometimes when you need some good self care time, also happens to clash with social events that you were looking forward to. This year I missed my own birthday party due to Psychogenic Non Epileptic Seizures. I was super bummed because the majority of people were actually attending! It was for the best though, and thankfully it wasn’t on my actual birthday.

3.Sometimes you don’t know *how* to self-care
Prior to getting many seizures, I wouldn’t be able to tell you what is in my self-care toolkit. (Stay tuned to find out what they are!) It can be difficult to figure out what the best self care options are best for you. For a person with a chronic illness, it can vary greatly, as everyone has different abilities. Going for a short walk might be good for me but not so good for a person with arthritis who is experiencing a flare up.

4. Your Self-Care can seem “lazy”
if You need to rest in your home without doing much, it can feel like you’re being “lazy”. As a person who never, ever wants to be called or labelled as lazy, this is a very hard one for me. When I legitimately need down time, I wish I could have done more around the house, and it makes me feel bad when I haven’t pulled my weight when my fiancee comes home. Although she understands, I am very hard on myself, which drives me crazy.

I’m having a self care day, so I have been thinking about this a lot. I’ll be posting about my own personal self-care toolkit soon so stay tuned!

Love,
Sita Gaia xox

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The Glorification of Being Busy

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Hey friends! This is a topic that I am very passionate about, in fact it should be a VLOG but I am working on it. If you are a busy person, don’t be offended. Here we go.

Where I live, Vancouver BC, being busy is almost like a personal badge of honour. For example, it is admirable for many  to leap from task to task in an entire day, and oh-sorry-I only have exactly one hour to meet you at the over-crowded coffee shop to quickly catch up on your life. Look. I get it. People are busy. But why is it seen as such a positive thing?

I was chatting with a good friend of mine last week who is currently in an accelerated program at University. She told me that she had no idea how people would go hiking both days of the weekend, on top of their intensive course work. How did they have the time for that? Isn’t it just nice to relax and spend time with friends or have some quiet alone time? In my experience (okay, chronic illness aside), it is almost frowned upon if you have spent two days of your weekend lazing around and reading a book.

Why is it so awesome to be busy? In my mind, busy and active are two TOTALLY different things. Busy is when you just keep going, with no stopping. You drive yourself into the ground. Active is when you have goals to be met, and you celebrate those with breaks or other things. I just really wish that where I live, being busy wasn’t celebrated so much. As a Registered Social Worker, self-care is super important. What is self-care you might be asking me? Self-care is doing things that make you feel well. It can be something as simple as having a bubble bath or drinking a cup of tea.
If you don’t take care of yourself, how can you take care of others? Remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

Love you lots!